My father past away....

Hellfire · Rated XXX Joined: 05 Aug 2003 Posts: 3473

Damn I'm sorry to read this Fox...Came here to see how everybody's holiday was and see this...

Your family did the right thing to let him pass. No sense prolonging it when he's no longer there. When they get to thtat point that there is no chance to recover I really believe Kervorkian had it right.

My condolenscens to you and your family. Death is always hard, at this time of the year its even harder.

FOX · Posted: Sun, 28 Dec 2008 02:09:49 Post Subject:

forgive me if i randomly post in this thread but its a good way to release what im feeling... im sure everyone can understand that

the last 2 days ive been surrounded by company so i havent had a single moment alone. this will actually be the first night that i spend by myself so this will be tough. Its weird because i feel nothing right now. It hasnt kicked in for either my brother mom or anyone else really. We have the funeral arrangent and set to go with everything. We picked where he will be resting and we decided to put him in a monestary cript. It was a long debate for that but it will be easier to move him if we decide later to put him next to his parents which will be in another area.

im very concerned about finances. Many may have known that i work for my father and i need a brokers license to run the business which is impossible to get in a timely manner so we will most likely be trying to sell the company or something... At this point I have zero income. I also have a mortgage and car and everything else in life so im not sure what im going to do there. He had no health insurance but the state will take over the bill for that most likely. We're still trying to find out if he had life insurance but we don't think its going to look good for that. We know he had it in the past but we don't know if he still has anything or who its through or even where to find it. Expenses will be a big concern, my father had a fair amount of debt due to recent divorce after 27 years and recently refinancing 2 homes.

Monday i have to go to work and call everyone we had an account through and basically come tell them to pick up their things and cancel everyones contracts. Its going to be very hard to do that...

i cant think of much else right now... its been hectic to say the least trying to figure everything out and it will be a very tough journey from here on... The wake is tuesday and the funeral is wednesday. It will be after that where reality actually kicks in. It was tough last night because I had a work related issue i didn't know how to handle and there was no one to call so that was incredibly tough on me. He was my go to person and best friend. I'm just glad I got to spend every day with him for the past year... going forward will be hard with no father. I know his friends will help me out a lot but i fear that i will lose communication with all of them ...thats what really scares me.

I'm going to talk to his best friend to see if he wants to be a father figure to me while all this is going on. I'm not sure what else to say with everything other than tonight i will have time to reflect while im alone...

knight0334 · Posted: Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:28:38 Post Subject:

You definitely have a lot to deal with. What you know about now is probably just the tip of the iceberg.

Good luck and best wishes to you and your kinfolk.